Comments on: Poem: Age is Better http://www.faceitthebook.com/site/2010/04/poem-age-is-better/ What Women Really Feel as Their Looks Change Fri, 20 Jan 2012 03:03:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Dr. Jill http://www.faceitthebook.com/site/2010/04/poem-age-is-better/comment-page-1/#comment-117 Dr. Jill Wed, 14 Apr 2010 00:57:37 +0000 http://www.faceitthebook.com/site/?p=386#comment-117 Jessie, I understand how you feel. It can be very frustrating to think a man may be "defining" you before he even knows you. That said, don't lose sight of who you are and all that you are - hopefully the man who is lucky enough to really see you will have been worth the wait. Dr. Jill Jessie,
I understand how you feel. It can be very frustrating to think a man may be “defining” you before he even knows you.
That said, don’t lose sight of who you are and all that you are – hopefully the man who is lucky enough to really see you will have been worth the wait.
Dr. Jill

]]> By: Jessie http://www.faceitthebook.com/site/2010/04/poem-age-is-better/comment-page-1/#comment-115 Jessie Tue, 13 Apr 2010 15:43:51 +0000 http://www.faceitthebook.com/site/?p=386#comment-115 Re: McKuen's poem As a single woman in my late 30's who wishes to get married, I have to say that a poem such as McKuen's offers no comfort. I am successful, accomplished, stylish, in great shape and feel more confident about myself than I have ever been. There are so many things great about getter older- I agree. However, I ideally would like to find a partner closer to my age ( sans children, ex-wives, pot bellies, etc), but the harsh reality is that it is so much harder for me than my male peers. I don't define myself by age or how I look, but when it come to finding love and marriage, many men would define me that way. The perfect poem would be one where a man is writing to a woman and telling her how more and more wonderful she is becoming with age... Re: McKuen’s poem

As a single woman in my late 30’s who wishes to get married, I have to say that a poem such as McKuen’s offers no comfort. I am successful, accomplished, stylish, in great shape and feel more confident about myself than I have ever been. There are so many things great about getter older- I agree. However, I ideally would like to find a partner closer to my age ( sans children, ex-wives, pot bellies, etc), but the harsh reality is that it is so much harder for me than my male peers. I don’t define myself by age or how I look, but when it come to finding love and marriage, many men would define me that way.
The perfect poem would be one where a man is writing to a woman and telling her how more and more wonderful she is becoming with age…

]]> By: Dr. Vivian http://www.faceitthebook.com/site/2010/04/poem-age-is-better/comment-page-1/#comment-114 Dr. Vivian Mon, 05 Apr 2010 12:04:40 +0000 http://www.faceitthebook.com/site/?p=386#comment-114 Mike, My trouble with poems like this one by McKuen is that they often come from a perspective that is quite different than a woman's experience of aging. It's not that I don't believe men can understand women and vice a versa. If I believed that, women psychotherapists wouldn't be able to help men, which is just not true. But until recently, I don't believe have truly understood the kind of pressure women have felt to look youthful as they age. Men seem to have had more freedom to rely on other aspects of themselves to enjoy the aging process. This pressure is starting to be placed on men, unfortunately, with our culture increasing focused on youth for both men and women. And women hopefully will get to a new comfortable place (that's what our book is hoping to achieve), where aging is equated with greater freedom of choice rather than the narrowing of choices when it comes to their appearance. Thanks for sending us the poem. Dr. Vivian Mike, My trouble with poems like this one by McKuen is that they often come from a perspective that is quite different than a woman’s experience of aging. It’s not that I don’t believe men can understand women and vice a versa. If I believed that, women psychotherapists wouldn’t be able to help men, which is just not true. But until recently, I don’t believe have truly understood the kind of pressure women have felt to look youthful as they age. Men seem to have had more freedom to rely on other aspects of themselves to enjoy the aging process. This pressure is starting to be placed on men, unfortunately, with our culture increasing focused on youth for both men and women. And women hopefully will get to a new comfortable place (that’s what our book is hoping to achieve), where aging is equated with greater freedom of choice rather than the narrowing of choices when it comes to their appearance. Thanks for sending us the poem. Dr. Vivian

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