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Cosmetics Drugs Gone Too Far: Is Anything Still Real?

July 16th, 2010 — 1:29pm

There is something about the new cosmetic “option” for thicker eyelashes that bothers me, though I’m not sure what it is. Perhaps it’s the resistance I still feel after leaving behind those false lashes I wore while modeling with Wilhelmina in the 70s. Or maybe wearing my current hat as a psychologist, it doesn’t fit with my belief that women can find true beauty within. Yet, my patients in their twenties and thirties insist, “Hey, it’s great. Why not have beautiful lashes without having to apply mascara?” Older women claim, “My lashes have thinned and it helps me get back to what I used to have naturally.” Undeniably, the reviews on these products — including Latisse, Lilash, Revitalash and Marini Lash to name a few — are largely positive. Except for a few complaints about mild irritation, allergic reactions and occasional permanent eye color change, most report they are satisfied by the thicker and darker lashes they see as long as they keep using the product.

Some women don’t realize that Latisse (the first of lash thickeners to be FDA approved) was a drug originally intended for glaucoma. An unexpected side effect was that it was found to increase the growth of eyelashes. It was then approved to treat hypotrichosis (a technical term for medical hair loss) and over time has been prescribed to treat what marketers call “inadequate eyelashes.” Much the way Retin-A cream and Botox (produced by the same company that created Latisse) once served to treat medical symptoms, Latisse now routinely serves cosmetic purposes. Miracle drug? Or another slippery slope for women to slide down?

I have no trouble with the idea that there are products and procedures that enhance a woman’s natural beauty. In fact, I accept the fact that women are probably hardwired to pay attention to how we look and that we need to take care of our appearance in ways that feel appropriate for our age. Take Victoria’s Secret, for example, and the many bras they now offer for women of all sizes, shapes and ages. Are there any reasons why a woman who doesn’t mind a little push or tug, shouldn’t enjoy sexy underwear options that were unavailable to previous generations? Spanx doesn’t bother me either. Women say the squeezing and constriction are worth the shaping it provides. In fact, compared to the ungainly padded bras and girdles of yesteryear, these seem more appealing to today’s women who are interested in making efforts toward looking great at any age.

Where I have trouble, is when women ask my thoughts about unalterable cosmetic procedures: breast implants, liposuction, brow and facelifts. I am concerned when patients talk about the constant surgical work they have done to upkeep their various body parts — for example, adding “hand rejuvenation” to their list so that their aging hands match up with their youthful faces. I ask them to think carefully and thoughtfully about their expectations — the whys, the costs and general long-term consequences. And it’s perhaps here where my issue with “longer lashes movement” comes into play. In my mind, using a prescription medicine to enhance a woman’s appearance lies somewhere closer to plastic surgery than Spanx or padded bras. And yet, its casual use is taking off at a rapid rate with women of all ages.

So, maybe the better question is, where do products like Latisse lead us? Have we created a disease we now call “inadequate eyelashes” that requires a new product, that mascara cannot take care of? Have we just found another way for women to feel they fall short as they yearn for some permanent and radical solution to reach ideal beauty? And what about the potential physical and psychological consequence of repeated usage of lash thickener? When we try any new beauty fad, are we relying on the due diligence of the cosmetic industry or the FDA? We need only recall that steroids (also once used for medical purposes) were found to enhance athletic ability and then ultimately were discovered to be dangerous, both for the long-term health of the athlete and of the sports world in general. It led to a deep mistrust in who was using and who had true talent, resulting in drug testing in all of sports.

Then there’s the use of stimulants, originally prescribed for children suffering Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, now being used as the new “brain power” drug. Ritalin and Adderall, two popular ADHD medications, have been reported to enhance a student’s ability to concentrate regardless of any diagnosis. A recent 60 Minutes report by Katie Couric described the routine use of these drugs by students on college campuses. A school counselor on the program said she believed that close to 80 percent of the seniors in fraternities and sororities were popping these pills to raise test scores and achieve higher grades.

And let us not forget the Viagra and Cialis craze. Look where that’s led our husbands, lovers, fathers and brothers. Once used for symptoms of Erectile Dysfunction resulting from prostate cancer or an enlarged prostate, they are now packed as part of the overnight bag to ensure a fun evening. Men — especially midlifers — tell me that the promotion of these products in the media has provoked unexpected feelings of inadequacy.

Lastly, we need only look at the exponential rise in the use of cosmetic procedures to witness one of the most slippery of slopes men and women are finding themselves on. Plastic surgery, Botox, injectables, fillers, laser treatments — the list is long — are regularly used to alter looks, defy aging, enhance and improve. And not just by the rich and famous (although, according to the New York Times, it’s the famous who are now just beginning to see the negative consequences of surgical procedures as they find that their plastic bodies and frozen faces are a turn-off to casting agents). Enhancements made surgically are permanent and permanently problematic.

So back to those eyelashes. I suppose I do realize what bothers me. First, it’s the long-term safety factor. We, our daughters, and all those young women who are being offered these new products, are like variables in an experiment that has not yet shown proven success over time. As a psychologist, the biggest issue for me is that yet another feature, characteristic or human natural quality will come under question: what is real and what isn’t? Our mothers’ generation used to ask, “does she or doesn’t she?” Our generation of girls now asks “has she or hasn’t she?” Even boys-who-would-be-ballplayers now ask, “does he or doesn’t he?” What questions will our sons and daughters ask in the future? Will they wonder if anything about a man or a woman is real? Will we trust women to be who they appear to be? Can men really have the bodies they do without drugs? Last for four hours on their own? Does that Harvard degree mean the same thing if it was achieved while taking the SATs on Adderall?

Wouldn’t it be reassuring if women could at least love their lashes as they are? What do you think?

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East West Living Book Store Event in NYC

May 10th, 2010 — 11:32am

We had a wonderful experience at the East West Living book store in downtown Manhattan. It was Mother’s Day, so mothers and daughters (mine included) showed up to talk about “Face It” with Michele (our editor) and me. It was especially enjoyable as soothing aromas floated by in this calm and spiritual atmosphere. The East West Living on 14th Street has been around for a very long time, but it was my first time there. It is New York’s largest source for spiritual and holistic health books and supplies. We were delighted to be speaking about our topic in an atmosphere that emphasizes a balanced lifestyle of body, mind and spirit awareness. That was our point; balance, inside and outside, about how we feel and how we look. The manager of the store, Cami (and her sister, mother and dad!) welcomed us as we walked through the door, telling us that “Face It” was selling very well at East West. The group who attended exchanged interesting ideas and, all in all, it was a great beginning to our 2010 Mother’s Day. We hope other book stores invite us for these kinds of discussions, so more women can feel beautiful in a balanced way. Dr. Vivian

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NYC Health Department Issues Warning Today About Body-Enhancement Procedures Offered by Unlicensed Providers

May 7th, 2010 — 11:39am

See link: http://www.nyc.gov/html/doh/html/home/home.shtml
Health E-News May 6, 2010

Health Department Cautions New Yorkers that Cosmetic or Body-Enhancement Procedures from Unlicensed Providers Can Cause Disfigurement and Death

Cosmetic surgeryThe Health Department warned New Yorkers about the dangers of going to unlicensed, non-medical providers for cosmetic surgery or body enhancement procedures. The agency has received and investigated several complaints of illegal medical practices in recent months. In February, eight women from New Jersey were infected with the bacterium Nocardia after receiving injections of unknown substances from unlicensed practitioners. In March, a Queens woman was hospitalized for a serious infection after undergoing liposuction by a salon operator without a medical license.

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Song: “You’ll Be Coming Down” by Bruce Springsteen

April 10th, 2010 — 11:02am

A fellow I know pointed out a line in a Bruce Springsteen song that he thought captured the issues we discuss in Face It. “You’ll be fine long as your pretty face holds out. Then it’s gonna get pretty cold out.” It was interesting that it was a guy who pointed the lyric out to me. It made me think how often this message is embedded in popular culture –in songs, fiction, media. I’ve copied the lyrics  below and wondered if anyone had noticed those particular lines before. The man who sent it to me reminded me that this is not just an issue for women, but for men as well, especially men in the entertainment business. and that although Springsteen seemed to be writing about a woman in this song, he could have been thinking about himself. “They’ll use you up and spit you out,” another line in “You’ll Be Coming Down” could reflect the sentiment of aging musicians, male or female. Dealing with “coming down,” and an aging appearance strikes us all; celebs, musicians and everyday people.

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Men have feelings about their aging looks too!

April 4th, 2010 — 11:11pm

We are adding a new feature to our blog; men! We are going to include their point of view in our conversation and here’s why.

I was talking about our book “Face It” on a radio show when a fellow, Lenny, called in: “Hey, what about us guys? We feel pressure too!” He went on to say, “Do you have any idea what it’s like watching middle-aged men in the movies make it with those gorgeous nymphets?” Harrison Ford, Robert Redford and Al Pacino came to mind, bedding women half their age.

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My First Lipstick Red Bag

April 3rd, 2010 — 1:11am

I am fifty-six years old and just came home after buying my very first red handbag. I took it out of the shopping bag and felt the soft, rich leather in my hands. I put it close to my face to smell the delicious aroma of good leather. The bag is a small clutch that holds little more than my cellphone and keys. It is red; bright, very bright, attention-getting lipstick red. It is to serve no other function than to look attractive. As I model for myself in my mirror,  I think, “Wow, here is something beautiful I can do for myself that I’ve never done before!”

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Start Your Own “Face It Group” (F.I.G.)

March 2nd, 2010 — 6:23pm

Yesterday, Dr. Jill and I did a live radio show for HayHouseRadio.com. Listeners were invited to ask questions about our book, Face It:What Women Really Feel As Their Looks Change. It was a wonderful interactive experience. One listener thought it would be great if she could gather a couple of women together to read the book together and support one another while working on the six steps described in our book. It was not the first time we had heard this idea and we are now thinking that perhaps we could be more active in encouraging groups like this to form around the country. If you are interested in creating a group, let us know. We would like to give you some ideas about how to make that happen and how they can work. These groups can serve to help you feel less alone, to answer questions about what women are really feeling as their looks change and perhaps find more satisfying solutions. How can we take care of our looks and feel good about ourselves as we age? Sharing information, giving advice and beauty tips is one way to encourage women that they can look and feel better at any age. Let’s join together with others to make that happen. –Dr. Vivian

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Tip #3 for the Modern Woman

February 25th, 2010 — 12:24pm

Here is another tip we used during our modeling days that continues to be helpful to us today. We hope you find it useful too.

3. Reinvent Your Look As models we had to constantly change our ‘look.’ It taught us to be capable of adjusting our appearance to the circumstances. Instead of feeling anxious about change, have fun as you reinvent a look with each stage. Those short skirts might not work, but other styles may. Letting go of your former self-image doesn’t mean neglecting yourself. Try walking instead of jogging; take yoga, in place of spin class. Adjust your attitude as you adjust your look.

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Thicker Eyelashes. What’s Next?

February 10th, 2010 — 3:52am

Something bothers me about the new craze for ‘thicker’ eyelashes and I’m not sure why. Women are now using a drug allergen, originally intended for glaucoma, to increase the thickness of eyelashes, much the way botox is now used to relax wrinkles when it’s original use was for treatment of various medical disorders. ……. Continue reading »

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A Great Role Model

February 10th, 2010 — 3:46am

I visited my 93 year old mother-in-law today with my husband today. She lives in an assisted living facility with my 97 year old father in law. We try to see them on weekends whenever possible. It was not any special occasion, but my mother-in-law looked dressed for one. She wore a beautiful cream colored sweater and an elegant pair of pants. Her bright white, curly hair was held back by a head band so that it was easy to see her white pearl earrings. She looked beautiful. I asked her what she thought of when she looked in the mirror when she woke up in the morning and she said ” I can’t see myself that well, but what I see looks happy.” I thought that was a great answer. She sees happiness. –Dr. Vivian

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